ABOUT LORETTA
I have been where
you are right now.
Not a version of it. Not something similar. The actual thing. The packing up, the starting over, the smiling at the school gates while quietly wondering where you went.
THE BEGINNING
Twenty years of packing up and starting again.
My husband's work took us from place to place for the better part of two decades, often with just a few weeks' notice. I was the one who kept everything moving. I sorted the schools, found the doctors, worked out the local customs, made it feel like home before I had any idea whether it actually would. I was good at it. I got very good at it.
What I did not get good at was knowing what I actually needed, because somewhere in the business of keeping everyone else grounded, I stopped asking.
I grew up with a Filipino mum and a British dad, which meant I had always carried more than one sense of home inside me. Moving countries felt natural in some ways. Normal, even. But normal does not mean easy, and it does not mean you come through it unchanged.
The transition is often the easy part. It is what it uncovers that takes time.
WHAT IT COST ME
I know what it is like to feel invisible in your own life.
Every move brought a new version of the same quiet grief. The friendships left behind. The routines that had finally started to feel like yours. The small things you did not know you would miss until they were gone.
I became brilliant at adjusting on the outside while something on the inside quietly shrunk. I learned to hold it together because falling apart was not a practical option when there were children to settle and a household to run, and so I coped. I kept everything going, kept everyone else steady, and told myself I was fine.
There were times I felt invisible in my own life. Surrounded by people and still somehow unseen. Present for everyone else and quietly absent from myself.
I also went through things that had nothing to do with geography. Losing my dad was one of the hardest things I have faced, and losing my father-in-law just months before meant there was barely any space to breathe between the grief. My son went through a sudden critical illness that shook everything I thought I knew about control and security and I have navigated the kind of complicated family relationships that most people only talk about with close friends at midnight.
None of that is unusual. Most women carry something like it, but I say it because I think it matters that you know I am not speaking from a place of theory. I am speaking from the inside of it.
COMING HOME
I thought returning to the UK would feel like relief. It did not.
When we finally repatriated, I genuinely believed I would feel settled again. I had been away long enough that home felt like something you arrived back into, like putting on an old coat. I was wrong.
Instead, I felt like a stranger in a country that was supposed to be mine. The rhythms were different to how I remembered them. My own sense of who I was felt different. The woman I had become abroad did not quite fit the life I had come back to, and the life I had come back to did not quite fit her either.
It was in that disorientation that I started to understand something important. The problem was not the country. It was not even the transition. It was the fact that I had spent so many years organising my life around everyone else's needs that I had genuinely lost track of my own. I did not know what grounded me anymore because I had not asked that question in years.
That was the beginning of something. Not a dramatic turning point. Just a quiet, honest reckoning with the fact that something needed to change.
HOW I GOT HERE
The work I do now grew directly from the work I had to do on myself.
I did not come to coaching through an epiphany. I came to it through years of quietly learning what actually helps, as opposed to what looks like it should help. I trained as a transformational life coach and became a certified Paseda360 Advanced Practitioner, which gave me a framework to understand what I had been living through and the tools to help other women do the same.
The method works at the level of the nervous system, which matters more than most people realise. A lot of the patterns that keep women stuck, the over-functioning, the difficulty saying no, the sense of always bracing for the next thing, are not mindset problems that can be talked through. They are stored in the body. They are responses that made sense once, usually in childhood, and have been running on autopilot ever since.
That is the level I work at. Not surface fixes. Root level work that actually shifts the thing underneath.
WHAT I BRING
What I bring into every session is not just training. It is lived understanding.
I know what it costs to hold everything together while something in you quietly shrinks. I know the specific loneliness of being surrounded by people and still feeling unseen. I know what it is like to have a body that never fully relaxes, even when everything looks fine on the surface. I know the particular exhaustion of being the capable one, the reliable one, the one who always manages.
I also know what it feels like on the other side. Not a perfect version of yourself. Not a fixed version. Just a more honest one. A woman who knows what she needs and is no longer afraid to say so. A woman whose nervous system is not constantly braced for the next thing. A woman who feels, for the first time in a long time, at home in herself.
That is what I am working towards in every session. Not because I read about it. Because I lived it.
WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOU
When you work with me, you are not working with someone
who understands your experience academically.
01
YOU WILL NOT HAVE TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF
The exhaustion of keeping everyone else grounded while quietly losing yourself. The guilt about needing something. The way you have learned to make yourself small in situations where you once felt certain. I already understand that.
02
THE WORK GOES WHERE IT NEEDS TO GO
We do not stay at the surface. We work at the level where the pattern actually lives, using nervous system tools, identity work, and the kind of honest conversation that most people do not have anywhere else.
03
NOTHING ABOUT YOU IS BROKEN
Every pattern that is now costing you once made complete sense. We are not here to fix you. We are here to help you understand what you have been carrying and make a genuine choice about whether to keep carrying it.
TRAINING AND ACCREDITATION
I chose this training because I needed something that worked at the level where patterns actually live. Not more frameworks for thinking about them, something that resolves them.
The women I work with have already done plenty of thinking. What they need, what I needed, is work that gets underneath that. That is what brought me to Paseda360, Event Havening, and Limitless Light Therapy.
Based in Gloucestershire. Working with women across the UK and overseas via Zoom, and in person across Gloucestershire, Worcestershire, and Herefordshire.
Transformational Life Coach
Certified Paseda360 Advanced Practitioner
Trauma-informed methods
Limitless Light Therapy Practitioner
Trained in Event Havening
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
The best evidence I can offer
is what other women say.
"Loretta is an incredible coach. She is a voice of clarity and reason. I couldn't recommend her enough for stress and anxiety management. She helped me in a time of serious stress, and I now have so many invaluable tools for every life scenario. Loretta is kind, calm and very trustworthy. "
Emma
"Loretta is a great coach with a caring and nurturing style. Her empathic approach will help you to navigate life's struggles with grace. I would highly recommend her."