I've been where you are. That's not something I say lightly.
I'm Loretta Davie, a life transitions coach for women who've lost themselves inside their own life. Before I was a coach I was a woman who held everyone else together for decades while quietly losing herself in the process. The work I do now is rooted in that, not just in my training.
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DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR
She's lost herself inside her own life. I recognise her because I was her.
You're capable. From the outside you've got it together. You manage the logistics, hold the emotional temperature of every room, make the decisions, keep the peace, and carry on with a level of competence that everyone around you takes for granted.
Underneath all of that there's a woman who's exhausted in a way that sleep doesn't fix. Who makes decisions based on fear or everyone else's needs rather than what she actually wants. Who's been putting herself last for so long that she's genuinely stopped knowing what first would even feel like.
Maybe a move brought you here. Maybe a relationship ended, or a bereavement arrived, or you repatriated back to the UK after years abroad and expected relief and found something closer to disorientation instead. Maybe there was no single event, just the slow erosion that comes from years of never being the priority.
The event is different for every woman. The feeling underneath is always the same. I know that feeling from the inside, not from a textbook, but from living it, carrying it for years longer than I needed to, and then doing the work to change it at the level where it actually sat.
For the woman who wants to know who she's actually talking to.
WHERE IT STARTED I was bullied as a child and had things happen that shouldn't as a teenager. By the time I reached adulthood I'd learned very thoroughly that keeping the peace was how you stayed safe, that making yourself smaller and easier and less complicated was how you got through. I didn't think of it as a strategy. It was just how things were. It felt like personality. I carried my family through significant losses and crises across the years that followed. I was the one who knew what needed doing, who held it together, who made sure everyone else was alright. I was good at it. Competent, capable, reliable. I had no idea it was costing me anything at all, because I'd never stopped long enough to ask.
THE MOVE I moved overseas. I built a life there from nothing, including a dog rescue that I ran from scratch. I poured everything I had into it because that's what I did with hard things. I worked, I managed, I got on with it. When I eventually repatriated back to the UK I expected it to feel like coming home. It didn't. I was caught between two versions of myself, neither one quite right, in a country that expected me to slot back in as if nothing had changed. I had changed completely. I didn't have words for it. I just knew something was wrong with me.
THE SHIFT It took the right support and the right tools for me to understand what had actually been running underneath all of that coping. Not the events themselves, which I could describe in detail. The patterns. The nervous system that had never quite got the message that it was allowed to settle. The compliance that had started as survival and gradually become the whole shape of how I moved through the world. When that shifted, it shifted at root level. Something in my body changed. The bracing I hadn't even known was there started to ease. Decisions that used to come from fear started to come from something steadier. I stopped managing the emotional temperature of every room I walked into. I started to feel, for the first time in longer than I could remember, at home in herself. That woman had been there all along. She'd just been buried under decades of getting on with it.
THE TRAINING I trained as a Paseda360 Advanced Practitioner because it was the most rigorous, depth-based coaching method I'd encountered, one that works at identity and belief level rather than just behaviour. I trained in Event Havening because it works at the level of the brain where the old reactions are actually stored, not in the thinking brain where understanding lives. I trained in Limitless Light Therapy because some of what was running me was formed before I had words for it, and that's where it needed to be worked with. I don't teach women to cope better. I help them get underneath the coping. I can do that because I've done it myself, and because I know the difference between understanding the pattern and actually shifting it. One of those is a relief. The other one changes things.
WHAT WOMEN SAY
In their own words
"Loretta is an incredible coach. She is a voice of clarity and reason. I couldn't recommend her enough for stress and anxiety management. She helped me in a time of serious stress, and I now have so many invaluable tools for every life scenario. Loretta is kind, calm and very trustworthy. "
Emma
"Loretta is a great coach with a caring and nurturing style. Her empathic approach will help you to navigate life's struggles with grace. I would highly recommend her."
Ann
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Questions women ask about working with me specifically
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If any of this sounds familiar,
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45 minutes, free, no obligation. You tell me where you are. I tell you honestly whether and how I can help and what that would look like. No pitch, no pressure, just a real conversation between two women, one of whom has been where you are and knows the way through. From coping to choosing, one honest conversation at a time.
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